This time of year, more than any other can really bring people down. It's no news to you, right? The media has been publishing information about holiday blues for what is seemingly forever. So, if it is nothing new, why talk about it now? Well, with the holidays bearing down upon us, I thought it might be a good time to take a look how we deal with our blues. I'm all for transparency, so here's where I go when I'm down. Of course, I don't want to appear vulnerable, weak or needy so my choice is to say nothing and keep moving. On one level this appears to be noble, doesn't it? What I have noticed about myself in these times is that if I'm not sharing, I'm not connected with my family. I'm too in my head, too quiet, letting the thoughts go round and round in my head. Still doesn't sound awful, right? Our actions, or inaction is noticed by those around us and with out allowing those people in on our state of the moment, they are unable to support us, hold us or love us. Some maybe worried that we're upset with them, others may think we're just plain miserable for no reason. With out sharing where we're at, we leave them to make up the story about what is going on for us.
Our down in the dumps holiday spirit can be brought on by so many things. Missing loved ones, too much pressure to get the perfect gift, no money to buy the perfect gift, or any gift for that matter. The pressure to be so HAPPY over the holidays, inserting shopping, wrapping, baking, parties in an already over stuffed schedule and throw a person for a loop.
Challenge:When you're starting to feel down, bring yourself to awareness of how you handle it. If you shut yourself down, try to open yourself up. Share a little bit, let others know you're having a moment and let them know if there's anything they can do for you. Make a mental note or write it down in your journal. Did you feel any difference? What happened when you opened yourself up? This post is geared toward the holidays, however it applies year round. As always, when you're sharing, make sure you are sharing appropriately. Over sharing with young children about adult issues is burdening to them.