I must admit, I love Facebook! I have a Twitter account but i'm not much of a tweeter. (yet) Social media networking is a very powerful tool. When I first began using Facebook it was to connect and reconnect with new as well as old friends. I enjoy reading the fun posts and at the same time I'm amazed at how much people play the application games. I recently discovered that it's incredibly powerful surrounding what is was designed for. Networking! Yes, it really works! It's a bit of a double edged sword as it also holds other power. The power of words. Not business enticing words....they're words of personal trouble either from within or with others. It is amazing to me that some people REALLY think that social media, such as Facebook is place to let people know that you are suffering from what would seem to be an anxiety attack or that you have had a rift at work or with a friend. Is it the proper place? No, it is not. These are a few things that come to mind.
1) Posting those comments suggests that everyone wants to be intimately involved in your stuff.
2) It shows a complete lack of awareness (or caringness) of how comments affect others
3) Boundries, Boundryless,
We have boundries (or we should have). One part of our boundry, our Internal boundry has two parts. The outer part protects you from the world. It allows us to sift through the information that we are hearing or seeing, take it in and ask ourselves, Is this true for me or not? If it's not, let it go, if it has some truth, take it in, own it, work on it.
The Inside protects the world from YOU. This is our containing boundry. What does that mean? You can most likely put a face to someone you know that has a poor containment. They are very good at spilling their stuff on to you (or others) regardless of how it makes you/others feel. Or for the purpose of this blog, air their stuff publically on social media. Just because you feel it doesn't mean you should to say it or share it. What is their reason or motivation? I'm not sure. What am I sure of? I'm sure that the posts are not designed to make people feel good. They are passive attempts to garner attention or mess with peoples feelings. I don't know about you, but when I post something I have given great thought as to how it will appear to others. (probably too much thought)
Challenge: Before you post ask yourself these questions. Is what i'm about to post designed for the better such as true networking, fun stuff etc? Or, is it designed to be provocative or hurtful? Also if you're on the recieving end of such posts ask yourself if it's time to hide the persons posts. Remember, if it sounds crummy, it probably is.